Dating number of sexpartners
(Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it can be true.) So basically, what I'm saying is, if someone is interested in your sexual past, the number of people you've slept with isn't going to tell them anything insightful about you, but maybe your great loves and heartbreaks and the things that mattered most to you will.
It's bad news if you are one of the many many numbers above or below twelve as, "70 per cent of men and 66 per cent of women say having less than 10 partners indicates "sexual inexperience and a lack of adventure in the bedroom".
Having more than 19 indicates "someone is too eager to jump from partner to partner, or simply too selfish and very difficult to please.'" A spokesperson for the illicit affairs site Christian Grant, commented: "We are more liberal, tolerant and sexually adventurous than we've ever been, so the numbers game matters.
The old double standard is still alive and well: a man with more sexual partners than his buddies may be teasingly called a “man whore,” but the epithet is a compliment, not an insult.
Ask a woman who has dared reveal her number to someone who considers it too high, and she’ll surely tell you a story of being “slut-shamed.”It’s quite common for a guy to worry about a girlfriend’s sexual past.
Remember when measuring how much sex someone has had was a very important thing in determining what sort of person they were?
In other words, remember how insanely repressive and slut-shaming and annoying everything we've ever heard about "the right number" of sex partners a person (eh, a woman, let's be honest) "should" have has been? If someone really wants to get to know you they should ask about your family, your hopes and dreams, your favorite movie, your traveling experiences, your political opinion on Beyoncé, because anything, ANYTHING is more interesting to know than the number of people (people who, for the record, are people the person you're dating now will probably never even meet or speak to) with whom you've had sex.But that’s a topic for another day.)♦◊♦It’s understandable to be curious about the sexual lives of our peers.It makes sense to want to know what the averages are.No wonder so many men—in this country and around the world—are obsessed with finding a virgin.This is the real reason why so many men get so filled with rage at sexually experienced women.It’s easier to win a contest against two than against 20, he figures.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating